HOW IS MOTHER’S BEHAVIOR ASSOCIATED WITH CRIME AND RESPONSIBLE FOR AN AGGRESSIVE MALE CHILD?

WHAT IS MOTHER FOR A CHILD?

MOTHER is the first relation for a child to know, understand and build. The Child feels the first emotion through mother. His first physical contact is with his mother. His first feeling associates and develops with her. For a child, the mother is a complete world because he/she is created in her womb, grows inside her, fed through her and born by her. The child learns initial habits and emotions from her. It’s surprising to know that child receives a feeling of insecurity from her. When a mother leaves her child for a longer period of time and without her child’s knowledge, the child becomes insecure and grows with this insecurity unknowingly. If this feeling of insecurity persists for many years especially during initial years of his upbringing, it later converts into the anxiety of separation.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF MOTHERS AND MALE CHILD

1. Few mothers take a child as a responsibility or as a burden. So these mothers become frustrated with this responsibility. They ignore their child’s emotional needs and can’t see his underlying desires, needs and emotions. So these children become emotionally cold and emotionally unstable. They even don’t understand others feelings.
2. Few mothers are very strict and want their children to obey them blindly. These mothers are dominating and can’t bear denial from their kids. These mothers fulfill all needs and desires of their child but conditionally. Children of these types of mothers become selfish, arrogant and egoistic. When they grow up they can’t face refusal from the society. They are socially unfriendly. They can never face rejection in life.
3. Few mothers are very lenient and free in their attitude. They give full freedom to their children and want their child to do everything what they couldn’t do in their childhood. These types of mothers are the favorite parent of their child. Unknowingly these mothers are overlooking the wrong learning of their child as they don’t stop the child when he is wrong, especially male child. So these types of children become so open-minded that they can’t differentiate what is right or wrong in life. They just do what they pleasures them.
4. Few mothers see their male child as a clone of his father. They only see faults in her male child as if he doesn’t belong to her. If these mothers hate their husbands, they hate their male child too.   http://www.helpingmindcenter.com. These mothers are very abusive and complaining. They use hurting words for male child and cause wounds on their mind forever. They use bad words for their characters because they see their husbands’ character in them and unfortunately their child becomes a destructive human being for the society. These male children hate women in their life. They are always destructive in their relationship with women. They look at women as an object of use and throw. They make girlfriends but never able to love them by heart.

HOW A MALE CHILD OF ABOVE SAID MOTHERS MAY BECOME CRIMINAL?

• The male child of an ignorant mother who takes him as a burden may become a thief because when his needs are not fulfilled, he wants to steal it. For stealing things from society he plans his stealing style. They are emotionally cold so they make rich girlfriends to fulfill their needs. They have more tendency to deceive people. They use people just to complete their own needs.
• The male child of the second type of mother is very egoistic and dominating in their love relationship. They can’t bear rejection and denials. So sometimes they become destructive. Sometimes a male commits a crime like the murder of his wife and girlfriend with an unsatisfied male ego.  Many researches results show that many rapes are done due to rejection by a woman.
• In America during the 1960s and 1970s, a study was done on some serial killers which showed that all of these psychopaths were treated badly by their mothers and their fathers’ involvement was negligible in their lives. Some of them were badly beaten by their mothers or their mothers’ boyfriends or by their stepfathers.
• Some of these psychopaths were made to play with dolls and not allowed to play according to their wishes. This affected them mentally and gender-related issues appeared in their personality later. When a male finds himself inferior to his female partner, he is jealous of her and jealousy leads to disaster. .https://www.helpingmindcenter.com/why-jealousy-is-harmful-for-humans/.

YET THERE IS ONE MORE TYPE OF MOTHER

A MOTHER WHO IS SO LOVING, CARING FOR THE EMOTIONS OF HER CHILD, WHO SEE HER CHILD AS GOD GIFT. 

IT IS SAID THAT BEHIND EVERY MAN’S SUCCESS, THERE IS A WOMAN BUT BEHIND EVERY  DEPRESSED MAN TOO, THERE IS A WOMAN.

BEING A MOTHER IS A BLESSING AND A VERY BIG RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS SOCIETY.

BECAUSE WE GIVE THAT, WHAT WE HAVE.

THANX

MEHFISHA ANJUM

(PSYCHOLOGIST)